The Most Powerful Email I Have Ever Received
Since writing "Goodbye To Comics," I have received hundreds of emails. The most powerful one was short and sort along the lines of this:
"I have gotten sexual enjoyment out of viewing rape and other such scenes in comics and entertainment. Your blog made me stop and think why this is so. And I realized that it is because I hate myself."
I don't hate this person or think less of him. I think it was very brave of him to write. It made me emotional reading it. Sometimes life bends you in different ways and this is how you cope. And I deeply wish this man finds peace and a place in his life where he doesn't hate himself anymore.
But as my blog made him think, his email made me think.
This world -- so many people coping and such a tapestry of lives and stories.
Should this man be my "enemy" -- or do we build bridges? How do we build these bridges? How can we understand the Other's viewpoint and move on?
When does forgiveness happen?
My father's grave -- I've never visited it. When do I forgive him for the past?
You know, it's funny. There is a recent blockbuster movie that I have never watched. Everybody and their mother has seen it but me. I refuse to see it. In essence, there is nothing wrong with the movie and I would probably like it. But its very subject matter brings up too much drama for me.
At what age do I move on and see this film? At what age do I visit my father's grave?
And is it a decision that I make on my own, or does time work its own magic, dulling my memory, mellowing my soul?