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Friday, November 17, 2006

Goodbye To Comics: Judith Regan And Why I Don't Apologize For "Sleeping With The Enemy"

Goodbye To Comics:
Judith Regan And Why I Don't Apologize For "Sleeping With The Enemy"


Judith Regan is the publisher of "How To Marry A Porn Star," "OJ: If I Did It," and a good friend of Howard Stern. It might be assumed that Ms. Regan is not exactly a sterling feminist, considering the types of people she publishes & promotes.

Which is why I found her long, candid personal statement released today regarding the OJ book so on-point with my own situation.

The statement answers charges that she is a heartless slime for publishing OJ's book--that she of all people, a woman, could profit off a wife-batterer and probable murder.

And so Regan recounts her own harrowing story of abuse by her ex-husband, and that she is the last person in the world to be insensitive to women's issues.

To have a "power person" like Regan get vulnerable and tell such a story of brutality & humiliation...

I was moved, honestly.

But then the question would be asked,
Why does Regan support projects & entertainers that are perceived as so anti-woman???

It is assumed by some that abuse and harrassment is the fire by which the future mega-feminists are created.

But really, wouldn't victims of abuse by the "patriarchy" know, more intimately than anyone, the sheer power of that patriarchy?

The power of that patriarchy to savage, to wreck careers, to intimidate?

And is our first reaction to fight that patriarchy?

Or to ingratiate ourselves to it as to not get hurt again??

Wouldn't the woman who was brutalized by her husband feel a degree of control, a degree of safety by having an "icon of misogyny" like Howard Stern on her side?

I'm not saying it's right.

It's just when I hear "you should know better than..."

Yeah, maybe I should know better. Maybe I should get a brain transplant or have my memories removed or dope myself up until I've got that "Laura Bush Smile" as well.

I listened to Howard Stern since I was 12 years old. The content of his show blended well with how I saw women treated around me, far more than any feminist treatise that I read.

Again, I'm not saying it's right.

I remember a woman I used to know who had been raped as a teenager and said she proceeded to fuck as many men as she could after that so the initial rape wouldn't bother her.

So when I find that my blog gets the most hits from keyword phrases like "superheroine rape" and "superheroine kill" and "superheroine torture" and "superheroine defeated," I have to laugh it off.

But deep down it makes me want to vomit and never stop. Because the idea of a "Superheroine" apparently motivates so many people to contemplate nasty things.

Then again, perhaps most of those hits are from feminist bloggers looking for material to discuss.

But actually, I know they're from angry sexually frustrated males. I know because I've run with that crowd in several different permutations.

And yes, it's well-known that the rape and torture scenes of women in comics have a big fan following. And that a few editors and writers know this and "play it up."

I get many, many hits based on those keywords, by the way. I was getting good Google AdSense revenue from it, too.

5 comments:

  1. Judith Regan, shame on you. If you really felt this way, why didnt you say that all your proceeds would go to a domestic violence charity.

    Hmmmmm so the truth is, it was greed and publicity, sick sick you are sick!

    shame - boycott anything judith regan including harpers ect.

    and check out www.dontpayoj.com

    judith - you are now as bad as OJ - enjoy your enternity in hell together.

    http://www.what-a-world.com

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  2. "So when I find that my blog gets the most hits from keyword phrases like "superheroine rape" and "superheroine kill" and "superheroine torture" and "superheroine defeated," I have to laugh it off."

    That makes me queasy as hell.

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  3. It's an abuse thing. You, as a "normal" person, find these subjects queasy just trying to wrap your mind around them.

    Those of us who have been victims of abuse, while not exactly comfortable with them, understand them to a certain extent, and the things we had to do to survive.

    Doesn't make it right or less disgusting; but it's where we live.

    What makes me queasy as hell are slasher movies where people try to gross themselves out for thrills. That;s just plain sick.

    ~~JD~~

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  4. But deep down it makes me want to vomit and never stop. Because the idea of a "Superheroine" apparently motivates so many people to contemplate nasty things.

    Getting the most hists from search keywords "superheroine [negative term]" doesn't necessarily mean that lots of people associate negative thoughts with superheriones. Currently, a Googls search for those terms ranks your blog as #1 twice, #2 twice and #4 once. Of course, this is after you removed all your previous posts and put up "Goodby to Comics", and all the hits point to this particluarl post, but if before purging your blog the results were similar, and if (say) you ranked #1 for "superherione defeated" but #100 for "superherione victorious", then everyone who searches for "superherione defeated" will visit your blog, but a only a small percentage of people who searched for "superheroine victorious" will visit your blog.

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  5. This is a really interesting, brave comment and I don't think it only applies to victims of abuse. How many women and girls do you know who make a point of maintaining that they're 'Just one of the guys' and how they hate other women because they're all so bitchy and jealous and love shopping (oddly, these women who can't find good female friends never seem to meet one another)?

    Add that to a lack of 'sisterhood' (or whatever you want to call it) in so many industries and I feel like women suspect there are only so many spots to be filled, only so many token women allowed through the door. So they've got to compete with one another while winning over the people who are 'supposed' to be there who will always be there.

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